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i've just started hanging out with some bloke (in a purely friendly, go down the pub kinda way) and hes gotten really clingy, he texts me constantly asking if i wanna go for a drink, which i really dont wanna do every day cos of money and i dont wanna be drinking every day. I know for a fact that he doesn'rt have many friends cos hes had a falling out with his best friend and i have a feeling that i'm his replacement for her. Dont get me wrong hes a nice guy and i like hanging out with him but i dont wanna be txted 5 times a day, random txts about random bollocks. However i dont wanna hurt his feelings cos hes been thru some shit recently. Am i being a dick or blowing this out of proprtion?

hmm, it could be because he's just started hanging out with you and relieved he's not on his own now his best mate has fallen out with him, and maybe he'll back off a bit when he's feeling less lonely. Like the constant texts may be a way of reassuring himself or something.

If you don't want to go to the pub you should give him the reasons you just said, cause they seem pretty valid to me.

yeah if hes a decent guy he should understand. spesh if u only just started hanging out he must realise hes bein a bit clingy.

I've had a 'friend' much like this.

He was a bit...odd.

He'd talk to you constantly about guns and people dying etc, or games. It's all he knew.
He found out where I lived eventually, can't remember how, so he'd knock on my door once a week, I'd pretend not to be in.
He would constantly try organise to meet up etc and he was just overall a bit of a weirdo.

In the end I had to get harsh and start ripping the shit out of him most of the time with other people so he would leave me the fuck alone.

What's he like when you're talking to, subject-wise etc?

i had a problem with a guy who wouldnt leave me alone, actually i had 2.
1 used 2 follow me home from school everyday to try & find out where i lived.

the 2nd used 2 text me all the time.. but this is before i was on contract & once i had no credit & he must have text me about 10 times in one day just asking me random shit about if i liked this book or film etc etc & then he said im gonna keep texting & pestering u until u actually tell me to leave u alone. & i was like i cant text u bac dickhead no credit! he used 2 email me all the time & i used 2 go to school with one of his friends & he used 2 give this girl letters that she had 2 pass onto me. psycho!!

so yeah make sure he aint one.

[quote="Richard":1dt9chnj]
I've had a 'friend' much like this.

He was a bit...odd.

He'd talk to you constantly about guns and people dying etc, or games. It's all he knew.
He found out where I lived eventually, can't remember how, so he'd knock on my door once a week, I'd pretend not to be in.
He would constantly try organise to meet up etc and he was just overall a bit of a weirdo.

In the end I had to get harsh and start ripping the shit out of him most of the time with other people so he would leave me the fuck alone.

What's he like when you're talking to, subject-wise etc?
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he talks about normal thing, music mostly cos we're both into metal so thats not a problem at all, i enjoyed the few times i've hung out with him so far its just the constant txts...even tho he hasn't txt me today at all but yesturday when he asked me to come out for a pint i gave him my honest reasons, just told him i prefer to drink on the weekends cos of money which he seems to have accepted. the person who said before, he might just be getting used to having another new friends and wants to reasure himself. I talked to another friend about it and he seems to understand where i'm coming from cos he knows that its not my style to be hanging out with ppl constantly cos i need my space, alone time etc. As i said he hasn't txt me today...yet so he might be easing off

Be brutally honest ESPECIALLY with the clingy kind.Trust me.

Honesty is the best policy.

Beating around the bush just gets you into shit.

i was honest and it seemed to work, he hasn't contacted me in a couple of days....unless he killed himself cos of it...lol j/k