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Right, before you jump right in and say OMG YOU'RE WAY TOO YOUNG TO HAVE A KID YOU'RE ONLY SIXTEEN, I just want to make a few points clear.

Mostly, people see under 20ish too young to have a baby because you havent had chance to experience stuff like being out with friends at night clubs, independence..etc.
Most people my age are hella immature, and therefore people dont think they can look after a kid.

Anyway..I've tried everything I need to try.
I've done drugs, I've drank, I've had sex..all that pish..And because of it, mentally, I feel a LOT more older than I am.

I'm in a stable relationship, and I'm moving in with the guy in 2 days.

If, for any reason, a baby did come along, do you think it would be a bad idea?

I feel ready, infact I KNOW I'm ready.

To me, it feels that, if i dont start a life now, im just going to keep drinking and abusing my body.
And I'd much rather use my body for something more beautiful than drugs/drink...

I hope this all makes sense :/.

i'm gonna make this short.
i did a lot of stuff before i was twenty. A LOT. i won't get into that. but the last two years of my life have had THE most dramatic change on me. it's not about the things you experience, IE drugs, drinks, sex. it's a lot more than that.
and if that isn't enough for you...
you're body is still changing. physically, the best and healthiest time for a girl to have a baby is between the ages of 22 and 26.

I understand that, but..I just feel as though if I don't start this now then I never will.


In all, honesty, if I don't see myself with a family before I'm 18, then I see myself on the streets.

And it probably sounds stupid coming from someone my age but, I don't know, since I met the person I'm with now, I just feel so..ready. I feel as though we can do this. And I want to give him everything I can.

you have over a lifetime. i say focus on that.
i mean no offense when i say that your last comment is a very juvenile one. and proves in itself you're totally not ready for it.

there's not much more i can say. do what you will. that's just what i think.

No offense taken.
Seriously. I posted this purely so I could see what other people thought.

Thank's a lot.

ok, here's my opinion
I think that you have a lot of time to think about a kid, but first you should enjoy living as the age you are!.. I mean, you're only 16, you should live and enjoy doing things that you won't be allowed to do when you grow up
for example, wouldn you like to travel around the worl, meet different places?
or have you thought about studying?
I don't know.. I think there are lots of think you won't be able to do if you have a kid!
I understand you feel mature and ready to do it, but you should think about the future, 'cause this is a decission that you might regret someday [or maybe not, but there's always that posibility].
hope you take the right decission for you!

What about your financial status?

a friend of mine, lauren has a 5 week old baby and she is exhausted. She told me if she knew it was going to be so hard so would have given him (westin) up for adoption. She is thinking about giving the baby up b/c she needs to work and such. She is 19 and has been through alot but there comes a point when a women is selfless.

my only advice is, have a baby when you can be selfless in everyway. I mean im almost done with college and im still no where near wanting a child. until i can provide healthcare, stable finances or shelter.

I am 21 and 13 weeks pregnant, i understand you may feel ready. - I think all women get to a point where they embrace the ability to create life, - but, I would urge you to give this ALOT of thought.
I felt that if I became pregnant I would feel fine about it and ready, - I have alot of experience behind me also, - I have too done drugs, alcohol (to vast excess) had heartbreak, - done college the list goes on.....
I am now in a 2 and a half year relationship, - we bought a house last year we both have good jobs etc etc, - HOWEVER, when i became pregnant, - in the last 3 months I have never felt as high, and as low, EVER. - it is the most emotionally unsettling time I have ever been through, - pushing my relationship (which has always been rock solid) to it's limit, - pushing me to my limit. The overwhelming emotion pregnancy stirs up can be unbearable at times as your responsibilty to this child you are growing inside you is endless (literally) and you realise that every mistake you have made this precious perfect product of love could also experience. As well as that, - you have the amazing feeling of seeing your baby on the scans and realising you are doing the most incredible thing a women will ever do and that is breathtaking.
I think the bottom line is becoming the lifetime protector to a human being and giving up your body for 9 whole months as sacrifice to the greatest thing you will ever do, is something that is very different in practice and it takes a lot of strength in all aspects.
If you truly believe you are ready then you know without the opinion of others, but make sure you have given it a lot of thought as this is something you have to be sure about :rolleyes:

i would be horrified if i were your boyfriend

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I am 21 and 13 weeks pregnant, i understand you may feel ready. - I think all women get to a point where they embrace the ability to create life, - but, I would urge you to give this ALOT of thought.
I felt that if I became pregnant I would feel fine about it and ready, - I have alot of experience behind me also, - I have too done drugs, alcohol (to vast excess) had heartbreak, - done college the list goes on.....
I am now in a 2 and a half year relationship, - we bought a house last year we both have good jobs etc etc, - HOWEVER, when i became pregnant, - in the last 3 months I have never felt as high, and as low, EVER. - it is the most emotionally unsettling time I have ever been through, - pushing my relationship (which has always been rock solid) to it's limit, - pushing me to my limit. The overwhelming emotion pregnancy stirs up can be unbearable at times as your responsibilty to this child you are growing inside you is endless (literally) and you realise that every mistake you have made this precious perfect product of love could also experience. As well as that, - you have the amazing feeling of seeing your baby on the scans and realising you are doing the most incredible thing a women will ever do and that is breathtaking.
I think the bottom line is becoming the lifetime protector to a human being and giving up your body for 9 whole months as sacrifice to the greatest thing you will ever do, is something that is very different in practice and it takes a lot of strength in all aspects.
If you truly believe you are ready then you know without the opinion of others, but make sure you have given it a lot of thought as this is something you have to be sure about :rolleyes:
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good luck with the baby and stuff
x

my best friend is 6 weeks pregnant. she just turned 18 and there's no way she'll give the baby up. the father however is 34, already has 2 kids but barely has contact with them, has been banned in almost the entire city and deals in cocaine. i can't talk her out of it. does anyone have some advice? she has no idea what she's getting herself into. she's on prozac and all for years now. can't be good for the kid. advice? please someone?

either have her detached from the asshole, or suggest adoption. not much you can do for her. it's her life.

I think you're way too young, it's not something you can decide on a whim, and I agree with Katie. If I were your boyfriend I would be terrified, does he even know about this?

Also you have to consider they cost a lot of money to look after, and you wouldnt want your baby to live in squalor would you?

Ok, so im 13, i don't know alot, so i don't expect you to take this advice all too seriously.
But me and my mum were talking about this yesterday, and well, think about it, your saying you've drank, done drugs and had sex so on and so on. Great. But what about travelling? What about seeing the world? What about having a career? You said ''In all, honesty, if I don't see myself with a family before I'm 18, then I see myself on the streets.'' Well, if you did have a baby, imagine, your 20, your friends are going to collage, and maybe even uni, some of them maybe have a time share, they all have the best time, every weekend their going shopping, getting pissed and next week, one of thems going on a round the trip world with her amazing boyfriend. Your stuck at home - no career, haven't been out in 6 months or so, no one can baby sit 'cause, well their all going out. You won't even have the chance to make something of yourself. Why did you say you see yourself on the streets, when your saying at the same time your in a stable relationship and such, if you were so stable, stable enough to have a child, then why do you say you'll see yourself on the streets? A kid isn't just for a few months, its for life, if you choose to be a good parent, you will spend the rest of your life, looking after your child, it might even be about your age when your friends are still getting pregnant, and getting married. You won't even have a chance to live, you say you've done all these things, but none of them are (and im not saying your not smart, im sure you are, and most other people have done this) but, whats so fulfilling about drinking and drugs? How is that experiencing things? I know where your coming from, but at the same time, you won't be able to do anything fulfilling with your life. And most likely, by the time you get to 30, you'll feel empty and so you have a kid, and right now you have a stable relationship, which is lovely, and im happy for you, but my parents thought they had a stable relationship when they had me, but their divorced now. A child alone is a strain enough, but a child at 16, is twice the strain darling.

Sorry if i seemed like a ranted abit there It wasn't at you, i just got carried away, and thought about it kinda deeply, and like i said, im only 13 (and have awful spelling and use of vocabulary) but its all just what i think about the whole ''teenage preggers'' thing

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Ok, so im 13, i don't know alot, so i don't expect you to take this advice all too seriously.
But me and my mum were talking about this yesterday, and well, think about it, your saying you've drank, done drugs and had sex so on and so on. Great. But what about travelling? What about seeing the world? What about having a career? You said ''In all, honesty, if I don't see myself with a family before I'm 18, then I see myself on the streets.'' Well, if you did have a baby, imagine, your 20, your friends are going to collage, and maybe even uni, some of them maybe have a time share, they all have the best time, every weekend their going shopping, getting pissed and next week, one of thems going on a round the trip world with her amazing boyfriend. Your stuck at home - no career, haven't been out in 6 months or so, no one can baby sit 'cause, well their all going out. You won't even have the chance to make something of yourself. Why did you say you see yourself on the streets, when your saying at the same time your in a stable relationship and such, if you were so stable, stable enough to have a child, then why do you say you'll see yourself on the streets? A kid isn't just for a few months, its for life, if you choose to be a good parent, you will spend the rest of your life, looking after your child, it might even be about your age when your friends are still getting pregnant, and getting married. You won't even have a chance to live, you say you've done all these things, but none of them are (and im not saying your not smart, im sure you are, and most other people have done this) but, whats so fulfilling about drinking and drugs? How is that experiencing things? I know where your coming from, but at the same time, you won't be able to do anything fulfilling with your life. And most likely, by the time you get to 30, you'll feel empty and so you have a kid, and right now you have a stable relationship, which is lovely, and im happy for you, but my parents thought they had a stable relationship when they had me, but their divorced now. A child alone is a strain enough, but a child at 16, is twice the strain darling.

Sorry if i seemed like a ranted abit there It wasn't at you, i just got carried away, and thought about it kinda deeply, and like i said, im only 13 (and have awful spelling and use of vocabulary) but its all just what i think about the whole ''teenage preggers'' thing
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your age is no reason for anyone to discount your advice. i think you've made several excellent points.

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your age is no reason for anyone to discount your advice. i think you've made several excellent points.
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^_^ Well thanks. Its just people always say, ''your only 13...'' so i guess i just beat them to it now (not that i think anyone would really do that here, but y'know.)

Having a baby is sooooo much work, you have to [i:1au2a8u1]really[/i:1au2a8u1] be ready for it if you're actually planning on having one. I wanted a dog really bad a while ago, I've been wanting one for years now, and I still want one, but not right now. I looked after a friends dog for two weeks and I realized how much work it was, every day. I know it's not the same, but if you have a baby, there's no was back, you know?

Just hope you trust yourself on being ready

I thought I was in a stable relationship when I was 16. I had already been with my boyfriend for a year, and we actually stayed together for 5 years. But the point being is that I changed a lot from the time I was 15 till I was 20. I got pregnant and eventually lost the baby, at first I was soooo upset. But now I know it was actually a blessing. He turned out to be a total jerk, and there were a lot of things that I still hadnt done. I know when you are that young and you have experienced all that stuff you feel that you know everything. But you are still young and you are still going to change. But you are going to do what you want to, all Im asking is that you talk to your boyfriend and see how he feels because it is going to be his kid too, and you might find that he is not ready for that. And if he is ready, I suggest that you both wait at least a year to see how you both feel about it then. Its a major decision that will change the rest of you life. Also the stress of a newborn baby can really put a lot of pressure on a relationship, especially since you are so young.

if i have a kid doesnt matter what fucking age i am, i will still feel overwhelmed.

My sister was exactly the same as you, she was 16 and she moved in with a boyfriend of 2 years. Then they had a kid.
She's always said how much older she feels, and i agree with her she was very mature for her age at 16. She thought she could just have a kid and because she was mentally older, that would mean she'd be able to cope.
She had the baby and everything.
She's 21 now, and she says she doesn't regret having her son, but she wishes she had waited 10 years.

Like others have said, when you're a bit older you're gonna want to go out and have a good time, get drunk, go to uni/college whatever and do what you like. But you wont be able to if you have a lil sprog runnin about the place

Tbh, in the end it is up to you and your boyfriend, but you wouldnt want to have a kid, and then a few months later realize that it was a big mistake.

well yeah thats what i think (:
its up to you,
good luck with whatever you decided to do.

I just laugh when I hear teenagers say 'I know...' in any statement.
We'll see after you move in with the guy if you do actually [b:1l23qiiq]know[/b:1l23qiiq] anything.

Generally, if you have to ask if you're too young, then yes, you are too young.

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Generally, if you have to ask if you're too young, then yes, you are too young.
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it is the same thing for, am I too old? yes, you are

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it is the same thing for, am I too old? yes, you are
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You trying to tell my 26 year old ass something?

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You trying to tell my 26 year old ass something?
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Im only 2 years younger, so no, not at all

SO IM LIEK LATE 4 DIS PARTI

But, yeah.
You do seem a ton more mature than most people you're age.
But j00 need sum cash-monies via da jobz.
Babies be expensive.

You've probably already figured everything out with that grade A lil' noggin' of your's.
Like I said, I'm late for this party.

My mum was pregnant with me when she was fifteen, which is the age I'm at now.
I know that I'm not ready for a child.
She was, I guess.

It depends on the person. (:

Oh, and.
No matter what age you're at you'll miss out on something.
Even if you're like... forty, you might miss out on a Bryan Adams concert or something. Ahaha.

Ohh, I love Bryan Adams.

there's a big difference between a bryan adams concert and..... growing up.

We had a pregnancy scare a few months ago.
It proved something to me.

I am so not ready.

I had my son when i was 22 and i'm glad i waited (well actually it wasn't planned) but it was a lot easier being in a long-term relationship as we can both still enjoy life. We take each weekend in turn to go on a night out. My friend however had a kid when she was 19 and they split up before the baby was born so she found it a lot harder. All i can say is if you are in a secure, happy relationship and you both have talked about having kids in the future, then if it happens it happens and you'll find it doesn't really interfere in your lfe that much. Hope this has helped, now i'm gonna go and sort out my son coz hes in my make-up bag again!!!

a new Jeffree Star in the making?

Hahahaha ^
:unsure: One's bad enough...

The majority of young mothers I know proved themselves to be capable, independent people, whereas others fell to pieces, grabbed as much of the baby bonus money as possible and ditched their kids on their grandparents.
I suppose if you feel you're ready, go ahead. As long as you realise that the kid will be your entire life for the next 18 years or more. Some of my aquaintances didn't seem to realise that their kid was ALWAYS going to be there, and yeah, they were going to have to stay at home sober and only hear about their mates' night out. Every week. For a hell of a long time.

drink, drugs and partying arent life experiences that qualify you for motherhood :rolleyes:

how about trying a job, a home, a stable boyfriend or partner thats been around a few years, and financial stability.

and no, i dont give a fuck if you shout and scream at me. im 23 and i wouldnt bring up a child without having all of the above.

Dude this thread is major old. And may I add..I do have a home, and a job. . Turned 18. Realized I want [i:2k2noinh]my[/i:2k2noinh] life, and I want to live it for [i:2k2noinh]me[/i:2k2noinh] nobody else..all that blethersome rubbish.

Perhaps try reading previous posts before jumping at folk?

"We had a pregnancy scare a few months ago.
It proved something to me.

I am so not ready"

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Dude this thread is major old. And may I add..I do have a home, and a job. . Turned 18. Realized I want [i:3mze1z2e]my[/i:3mze1z2e] life, and I want to live it for [i:3mze1z2e]me[/i:3mze1z2e] nobody else..all that blethersome rubbish.

Perhaps try reading previous posts before jumping at folk?

"We had a pregnancy scare a few months ago.
It proved something to me.

I am so not ready"
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do you honestly think i would read this whole thread? unlike some on here, i have better things to do..

you asked for people's opinions, and you got one, simple as. :rolleyes:

The thread is two pages long..It would take a toddler five seconds to read through it.

Any reason in particular that you're being a dick? Probably not. I'm fully aware I asked for opinions, but that was 2 years ago. A lot changes.

If you're not going to take the time to learn all of the information to give an adequate, relevant, significant opinion, then don't bother replying. Unless you prefer living your life basking in ignorance.

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do you honestly think i would read this whole thread? unlike some on here, i have better things to do..
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Hah. Is that not the point to contributing to a message board?

haha at jinx for lookin down on us for joinin a message board and then being crazy enough to read the threads

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do you honestly think i would read this whole thread? unlike some on here, i have better things to do..

you asked for people's opinions, and you got one, simple as. :rolleyes:
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i just read the whole thread and i have 2 kids!!!

even tho this may be old... but here it goes...
whoever says there ready for a baby is full of kadoodie.
Nobody is ever ready.

This will haunt me forever wont it?

I won't say not to, or to. Just make sure that you are in the best shape possible for the job. Also, I would personally wait until the body is at its peak for that as well (I am a part time health nut). My on-again/off-again guy moved in together (LONG story), and I ended up pregnant without knowing it. We did the yearly break-up (I thought we had actually gotten over that phase), and right before I miscarried, is when I realized I was preggers. So 1), missing 1 pill of birth control even when paired up with pulling out can knock you up eventually, and 2) make sure you are physically, and psychologically able to handle the stress of everything going on times 20. Everything was a billion times worse with those hormones. Also, can you handle dealing with a miscarriage if it happens? Even though mine worked out for the best, it still bothers me. Everyone else that has gone through it that I have opened up about it, says it's one thing you never get over. Just when I think I am okay again, it hits me. Especially since a week ago I realized they would have been born the same month as the father. I think in a way he is trying to get me preggers again, and it's scaring the shit out of me because I don't want to lose another kid. I guess in short my point is to be ready for anything, and make sure you can handle it.

This thread is very old.

People really aren't reading the whole thing are they?

No. I think it would be best to ignore further advice =).

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This thread is very old.

People really aren't reading the whole thing are they?
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baby doll, i do :rolleyes:

Lets have sex